Trust

I am constantly told that not trusting anyone is wrong, but in my eyes I never get hurt so how can that be classified as “wrong”? I am content finding confidence in myself and not relying on people for my happiness. When you are enjoying someone’s company, you are sharing your own individual happiness, which is what makes the connection. You are your own person and your independence shared with another is what makes a true healthy relationship. What happens when you are abandoned, dumped, or even screwed over by someone who you gave all your trust to? It hurts. But if you never fully told them you trusted them with all your heart then you somewhat convince yourself that you didn’t need them and it doesn’t take as long to get over the person. I’m not saying it doesn’t take time but when you realize that that person was just a part of your life not your whole life, you begin to realize that void can eventually be filled. Whether it’s a best friend or boyfriend who loves you dearly, everyone is in it for themselves. As harsh as that sounds, it’s the truth in this world. Now I’m not saying I don’t trust people with certain things, I mean I trust my friends to stand up for me, and I trust my boyfriend to be there when times get tough. However, I don’t trust that either of them would die for me. Once you find someone that would risk his or her own life for yours then you can call me out and say that trusting someone is possible. (This does not go for parents; of course we can trust our own mother and father). I’m sorry if this sounded cynical, just at this point in college I’m starting to see what other people can do to another for their own selfish desires.